It's Just A Phase

September 23, 2016
It's Just A Phase

Haven’t we all said the phrase, “Oh, it’s just a phase he’s going through.”   When we say it, what we really mean is, “Oh, this is a time in my child’s life that I’m not enjoying and I can’t wait until it’s over!”  Right?  Those “phases” include the terrible twos, the emotions of puberty and the willfulness of the teenage years…just to mention a few. 

Recently at Bridgeway we’ve been learning that parents have just 936 weeks between a child’s birth and graduation.  And those weeks fly by quickly.  So, mom and dad, knowing that your weeks with your kids are finite and diminishing every seven days, what if you decided to look at the phases of your child’s life through a fresh, positive lens?  

The new strategy we are implementing at Bridgeway, known as The Orange Strategy, gives the word “phase” a new definition…

“A phase is a timeframe in a kid’s life when you can leverage distinctive opportunities to influence their future.”

That’s a powerful way to look at the terrible twos and teenage rebellion, isn’t it?  So, if a phase is a time frame that contains distinctive opportunities to leverage nurturing, teaching, loving, guiding, enjoying, discipling, protecting, empowering and praying for your child, why would you want to miss any of them...even the challenging ones?  Good question!  The truth is, parents, you can’t afford to miss or wish away any of it. 

Each phase in your child’s growth and development contains distinctive, God-designed moments for you to help your child experience God’s unconditional love and forgiveness.  

  • Your baby or preschooler needs to be embraced because they are yearning to know they are safe and loved.
  • Your K-4th graders needs their imagination engaged so they can discover how God’s story and God’s Word applies to every aspect of their lives.
  • Your 5th-8th grader needs their worth affirmed as they transition through puberty toward the challenging questions this world presents them.
  • Your high school students needs to be mobilized to serve others so that they can experience what God can do through them.

So, the next time your...

  • preschooler wakes up in the middle of the night afraid of the dark
  • your elementary child has to be asked 10 times to take out the trash
  • your middle-school child lies about having homework to do
  • your high school student slams the door on your conversation about their attitude

…stop and take a moment to embrace the phase. Remember that you are being presented with a distinctive opportunity to nurture, teach, love, guide, enjoy, disciple, protect, empower or pray for your child.  It’s a phase – for better or worse – that you will have for such a short time and one that you don’t want to miss because you have the God-given privilege of helping to influence that phase for your child’s growth and good.

You’ve got a big job, mom and dad, but God will see you through each phase.  Remember His truth to you from 1 Corinthians 15:58…

“Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.”

It’s just a phase so don’t miss it! To learn more about your child's phases, visit the Phase Project website.

Lori Salomo, Children's Pastor @ Bridgeway